Dear Anita,

Once again, you have stepped forward into the lime-light to fight the not-so good fight against The non-existent Patriarchy.

Where to begin?  Let’s start off with how you always seem to forget an extremely large part of the context.  You say how dis-empowering this trope is to women, but always forget to mention how it paints the male protagonist as nothing more than useful only in his service to a woman.  You paint these women as victims, and the plot-lines as damaging to women.  And on the occasions where they are actually showing these characters to have the ability to stand up for themselves, you shoot this down as being inconsequential.

And, you forget to mention the risk of life and limb the male character goes through to help this female character.  Every time this particular story line plays out.

And then there is your stating how using the vulnerability of the female character, to elicit an emotional response for the female character, and further go onto call it patronizing.  How is it patronizing to women, for a man to care about them?  Do you not want to someone to care about you, should you be in danger?  I highly doubt that, considering how you used this to garner support for this project.

Also, along those lines, why else would anyone go through such torture and torment for someone, unless there was some form of emotional connection?  Come on, let’s get real here.  Obviously a person, not necessarily a specific gender, would not go through such great lengths and risks for someone, without some reason.  And love, caring, and concern for the safety of someone is a powerful motivation.  One you completely dismiss as irrelevant, even though it in the context of the story it’s the guiding force for the hero.

You even dismiss the times that the female lends support to the male, as insignificant.  So let me ask you something.  If someone you care about were in a situation that required help, would you tell that person “Do it yourself?”  I am failing to see how anyone being vulnerable and needing the help of others is anything less than reality.  Also, what happens when the man is being openly vulnerable or in a situation they don’t know how to fix, and the female character steps in and offers the solution?  Is this taken away if the woman suddenly becomes abducted?
It’s part of a larger problem I see in your critiques, which is taking the whole context, and cherry picking how to view it, instead of looking at the whole.

Also, I find it rather amusing how you point out how violence is used against women, but conveniently forget to mention how the only thing the male characters can do, is use violence.  And once again, you make your usual “The game developers add something in, but it really doesn’t matter,” line of thinking, dismissing it.

You talk about how damaging this is to women, but near the end, you re-enforce the exact stereotype.  “If we dig a little deeper into the subtext, I would argue that the true source of the pain stems from feelings of weakness and or guilt, over his failure to perform his socially-prescribed, patriarchal duty to protect his women and children.”  So, protecting someone is a bad thing, Anita?  Helping others who are vulnerable and unable to protect themselves is wrong?  Hmmm…  How about you give back the $160,000 you got from your kickstarter campaign for this project?  Because the people who supported you were obviously wrong to help you, according to your own argument against these games.

And while you, for once, give some credence to the problems in these games regarding the male aspect, you give it all of 30 seconds.  Two videos that make up almost a full hour, and men get 30 seconds.  Great work at fighting for gender equality.  /sarcasm off

And if this wasn’t bad enough, you’re going to do another video on the same subject.  Looking at the ones that flip the script.  So it’s dis-empowering if done to women, but is it just as dis-empowering when done to men?  I really hope you address that question, in the upcoming video.

You complain through all 25 minutes of the video about how dis-empowering all this is to women.  And here’s my biggest complaint about you:  You offer absolutely no solutions

So, dear Anita, my challenge to you:  Find solutions to these problems, instead of just complaining about them.